I’m reviewing a book this week that I think every parent needs, even though it isn’t written for kids at all.
It’s called Consent Scripts and Boundary Blueprints by Briar August Wren, and it’s a workbook of boundary language for adults. I’m so excited to walk you through it.
I was raised in a home where boundaries weren’t really a thing. You did what you were told, and you accepted it. So even now, as an adult, setting a clean boundary instead of building a wall is something I’m still practicing.
That distinction matters. A wall is when you cut someone off without explaining why, because you never learned how to communicate the boundary itself.
A boundary is something the other person can actually understand and respect. When you can communicate it clearly, you either save a relationship worth saving, or you find out for certain that it isn’t respected. Either way, you’re better off than you were behind the wall.
Here’s why this matters for our kids... They don’t learn boundaries from what we say. They learn from what we model.
We can talk about screen limits until we’re blue in the face, but if we’re on our phones all day, that’s the lesson that lands.
The same is true for boundaries with the people in our lives. If our kids watch us fold under pressure with a friend, a partner, or a family member, that becomes their blueprint for what love and connection are supposed to look like, softness that gives way instead of a boundary that holds.
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