As a parent, few topics feel more uncomfortable- or more urgent- than understanding what’s normal sexual development versus warning signs that need immediate attention. In this essential masterclass, body safety expert Rosalia Rivera teams up with veteran sexual health educator Amy Lang (founder of Birds + Bees + Kids) to guide you through the gray areas that keep parents up at night.
What You’ll Learn in This Class:
Recognizing Green, Yellow, and Red Flags in children’s sexual behavior, from “penis meetings” behind bushes to French kissing curiosity between young friends. Through real parent scenarios, Amy and Rosalia break down when behavior is developmentally typical exploration versus when it signals a deeper concern requiring intervention.
The “Adult Test” Assessment Tool: Learn Amy’s practical framework for evaluating any questionable behavior by asking: “Would adults do this?” This simple question helps you distinguish between innocent childhood curiosity and concerning adult-like behaviors.
How to Respond in the Moment with calm, shame-free scripts that protect your child while keeping communication channels wide open. You’ll get exact language for addressing everything from bathroom boundary violations to pornography exposure.
Prevention Strategies That Actually Work: Discover why front-loading age-appropriate information about sex, bodies, and pornography (yes, even for your 7-year-old) is your strongest defense against harmful exposure and peer-to-peer sexual behavior.
Device Safety Essentials: Understand why monitoring and filtering tools are non-negotiable in today’s digital landscape, and how to implement the “car seat approach” to online safety that grows with your child.
Handling the Pornography Reality: With average exposure now happening around age 9, learn exactly what to say before, during, and after your child encounters sexual content, whether accidentally or through peer sharing.
Why This Matters Now:
Peer-to-peer sexual abuse is rising, largely due to pornography exposure in increasingly younger children. Schools report incidents parents never imagined happening in elementary settings.
Most parents don’t realize that the behavior that looks alarming is often developmentally normal exploration, and your calm, educated response makes all the difference between a teachable moment and lasting shame.
At the same time, other behaviors that get dismissed can be red flags that should be intervened in and redirected, and it’s important to know the difference between normal and inappropriate behavior for different ages.
This class gives you the confidence to navigate situations like:
Your child’s friend suggesting they “try French kissing”
Siblings engaging in private part touching during bath time
Discovery of sexual search terms in browser history
Reports from teachers about inappropriate playground behavior
Questions about terms like “69” or “blow job” overheard at school
You’ll leave understanding that most childhood sexual behavior is natural, healthy curiosity, not abuse or trauma.
The key is knowing how to recognize the difference, respond appropriately, and build the foundation for your child’s healthy sexual development.
The Bottom Line:
Your discomfort around these topics is normal. Your lack of preparation is fixable. And your children desperately need you to push through both, because the parents who talk openly about bodies, boundaries, and sexuality raise the kids who come to them when something feels wrong, resist peer pressure, and develop healthy relationships with their own sexuality.
This isn’t about stealing innocence. It’s about protecting it through education rather than silence.
Perfect for parents of children ages 4-12 who want to create safety through knowledge, not fear.
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